Sidi-not so saintlY

Women are the prize. When did men forget this? And I don’t mean “the prize” as in women are better than men. The value of a good man is undisputed. In my cultural tradition, it is essential. He should be a leader, a protector, a provider. This is not a competition of superiority or inferiority. Women are the prize because they are the single most beautiful, modest, and abundant vessel through which Allah gives life. That is not sentimentality. It is reality. Life does not pass through men. It is entrusted to women.

The West has forgotten reverence. It has confused equality with contempt, liberation with disposability, and desire with entitlement. In stripping women of their sacred role, it has not empowered men. It has weakened them. The sentiments I describe may not have been historically part of Western culture, but weak men are universal in our current climate. Weak men, as history keeps proving, are the most dangerous of all.

Yes, a weak man is the worst sort of man. Not because he lacks power, but because he lacks accountability. Weak men outsource responsibility, hide behind ideology, and mistake resentment for truth. They are loud, repetitive, and deeply insecure. Nowhere is this more obvious than in how they speak to women.

The incentive for men to keep women respected, protected, and genuinely appreciated, particularly for our role in carrying and raising children, should be obvious. Reverence should follow necessity. Instead, we get pressure, resentment, and contempt.

The damage weak men do is often sidelined by talk of society producing “incels.” Even the term itself is revealing. Incel removes accountability from men and subtly shifts the blame onto women. It frames male failure as female cruelty, entitlement as victimhood, and rejection as injustice. Loneliness may be real, but entitlement is not destiny.

The desperate self-importance of men who want to preserve their genes, produce heirs, or create workers for the family has reduced women to function: vessel, means, utility. Once reproduction enters the conversation, women’s humanity quietly exits it.

This reduction is not strength. It is fear. Fear of irrelevance. Fear of extinction. Fear that without access to women’s bodies, emotional security, kindness, and care, weak men disappear entirely.

The more men explain how important they are to women, and how time is running out for us to have children, the more repulsive they become. This warning is delivered endlessly with smugness disguised as concern. It is not wisdom. It is panic. It is fear masquerading as authority.

Women are not rejecting motherhood. Women are rejecting coercion, especially when it comes wrapped in entitlement and threat. Nothing exposes male weakness faster than a man who needs to frighten women into choosing him.

The only way forward is for men to fully acknowledge women’s importance in society, not as a convenience, not as a function, but as the anchor of life, culture, and community. The true prize is not women alone, nor men alone, but the collaboration between them, respect, accountability, and shared purpose. When that balance is restored, strength, reverence, and humanity follow naturally.